Do you remember how fearless you were as a kid (or even as a young adult)?
How nothing rattled your nerves?
When I was 20, I took a year off from college, packed up everything I owned, including my piano and my little white Pomeranian, and headed south for the sunshine state. My parents were a nervous wreck; I was decidedly confident – I knew everything would be fine.
And it was.
But something changed once I entered the working world.
I returned home to Atlanta to finish college, got a great job and was quickly working my way up the corporate ladder.
It wasn’t immediate, but over time… I found myself consumed in shadows of doubt.
Regardless of the success I achieved, I was constantly reminded by my superiors (and peers) that my success was only as a result of someone else helping me to get there – never of my own abilities and persistence.
Isn’t it funny how working for a company can feel just like being in high school all over again?
It tore me down, and I no longer felt as if my point of view, or my voice, had any merit. I doubted myself... a lot.
Then, when I left the corporate world to launch The Moxie Project, I knew I needed someone to push me -- to lift me up and help me to regain the confidence I had lost. I needed someone (not my family or friends), but an impartial person who could coax me out of hiding, ask me tough questions, challenge me outside of my comfort zone, and, most importantly, help me to bring this vision I’d held for so long in my heart, out into the world.
To show up.
The raw truth is that it has only been within the past year that I’ve finally been able to regain my confidence. My fear was always...
What if they were right?
What if any success I had in years prior was only their doing, not my own?
No joke -- this was the toughest thing I have ever done. But, the good news is that if you’ve been knocked down, I have a very simple formula that will help you get back up again (cue that Chumbawamba song from the 90’s).
5 Simple Steps to Regain Your Confidence
& Start Showing Up (In All Your Glory)
1. Write out your brag sheet – A list of all your accomplishments – and read it daily
2. Take care of yourself – Mentally & physically
3. Get a mentor
4. Decide – The ability to decide is the most powerful force we have. Once you decide what you want in life, you will have so much clarity and confidence.
5. Take action on your decision
So rather than letting those crushing words of others stay with you, use these 5 simple steps to keep you moving, creating, and living the life you want (and a life you love).